10 Fun ways to bond with your child

10 Fun Ways to Bond with Your Child

Being a parent involves a lot of things, such as teaching your child manners and responsibility. It is also essential to have fun with your child and meet his or her emotional needs. Your child needs a lot of attention and when you meet these needs you have a much better chance of your child growing up to be a balanced and happy person.

Bonding with your child will not only strengthen your relationship with your child, but it will probably make you a more relaxed and patient parent too.

While disciplining your child is important, knowing when to relax and have fun is also vital. Here are some ideas for ways to bond with your child.

1 Reading Together

I recently wrote an article on why reading with your child is so important so I won’t go into great detail about that. Let’s just keep it simple and say that reading is fun and you can incorporate reading to your child into your daily routine.

Reading your child a bedtime story every night will give you some special quiet time every day that will most certainly create a stronger bond between you.

2 Giving Your Child A Massage

A massage is a wonderful way to bond with your child, plus massage comes with incredible health benefits too.

Massaging your child just before bed will help your child to relax and chances are that your child will sleep better for it. If your child is suffering from any sort of anxiety and/ or sleep problems like night terrors then I highly recommend massaging your child before bed.

3 Quiet Talk Time before Bed

Having a quiet talk with your child just before bed is an excellent way to bond, plus you have a quiet moment to check how your child’s day was and if there was anything that went wrong you can process that with your child.

I’m not sure about you, but very often my days are a whirlwind of getting kids ready and to school in the morning, rushing through work, fetching the kids, getting them fed and looked after… before I know it the day has gone and I don’t actually know how my kids days went and if anything is bothering them.

I find this moment before bed one of the first truly quiet moments with my child and the perfect opportunity to go through their day with them.

It is my last chance for me to let my children know how much I love them and care about them.

4 Kisses and Cuddles

I believe cuddling is so important and this can be done at all times during the day. I kiss and cuddle my kids every opportunity I can. I just can’t help it and my kids suck up this kind of attention.

There are loads of opportunities for kisses and cuddles, from early morning cuddles when my kids wake up and come to my bed to cuddling when I read them their bed time story.

5 Movie Time

I am not a fan of lots of screen time, but I do believe that movies can be fun and exciting to watch together.

Every Friday is family movie night at our home. When I pick the kids up from play school we go to the shop on the way home and buy cooldrinks, sweets and chips. It is our weekly naughtiness and the kids love it.

If there is a new movie that comes on DSTV during the week I will tape it for them or I will check if there is something good on Box Office. Otherwise I may buy a dvd specially for movie night.

Plus when we are watching the movie we have cuddle time. My kids absolutely love Friday movie night.

6 Art Activities

Kids just love coloring in and painting. We have a huge box called the art box and I have all sorts of messy and fun things in there from paint, to glue, glitter and colorful odds and ends.

Every now and then we cover the table with newspaper and have some fun.

7 Kids Activities

Kids love getting creative and there are so many more kids activities you can do other than art activities.

You can make your own playdough, foam dough, bath paint, paint and glitter glue. You can make your own slime, bouncy balls and bath bombs. Seriously there are so many things you can do that cost hardly anything and will keep your kids entertained for hours.

Plus you will get to have loads of fun with your kids and be the coolest mom around.

8 Go for a Milkshake or Ice Cream

Outings don’t always have to cost a fortune or take up a huge amount of time. Just going out for a quick milkshake or ice cream could make your kids day and give you some one on one time with them.

Yesterday I took my kids for a quick ice lolly at Scott’s Nursery and they loved it.

9 Go for a Picnic at a Park

I don’t know about your kids, but mine are obsessed with picnics. If you have spare time that would normally be what I call waiting time then keep a blanket in the car and have a picnic if the weather is good.

We have a picnic every week since there is a gap of two hours between play school finishing and my daughter’s gymnastics so instead of spending the time driving back and forth we have a picnic and make good use of that time.

10 Baking and Cooking

If I tell my kids we are going to make cupcakes I can actually see them shivering with excitement! I have the best cupcake recipe that I must actually share with you because it really is a no flop chocolate cupcake recipe. In fact I will share that with you next… now that I think about it!

I also let my kids help me prepare supper and they love it.

It provides time together plus they are also learning valuable skills in the kitchen! Yes I have to admit supper is slow to make but it sure beats having my kids fighting for my attention while I struggle to cook.

Making small changes like letting them help with the supper changes it from a struggle to good bonding time. Their absolute favorite is making our own pizza dough from scratch and then we each make our own pizza.

We once made a whole gingerbread house, it took us 2 days to make it and it was incredible! And yes I have to share how to do that with you too!

Making a gingerbread house

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25 comments

  1. It’s so difficult when you have 2 kids to spend alone time with one! Would luv some advice.

    • Yes I know exactly what you mean @tania-brewis. I also have two with 2 years 2 months between them. I think you have exactly the same age gap?

      The one thing I do every evening is spend some quality time with each of them before bed. My older child that is 5 years old watches some tv while I bath my 3 year old. Then my daughter gets in the bath while I give my 3 year old son a massage, read him a story and we chat for a bit.

      Then I put him in bed and I do the massage, story and chat with my daughter before I put her into bed.

      Of course I spend some time with both of them during the day, but it is in the evening before they go to bed that they each get their alone time. You didn’t say how old your kids are though, just the age gap.

      Hopefully my routine will help you a bit?

  2. Im already spending alot of these fun tips with my son…reading together but he cant read with i read for him i talk to to him not just before bed time but as much as i can having conversations….bath time i let him kick water and sit and play with help of mommy he enjoy and laugh so much if i clap hands and say wow jump jump thats in his walker then he gets excited and jump wild for a 6 month old his already so strong in his legs his standing in the walker like he his a pro jump and balance himself i spend every moment i can with him…lucky to just have one for now all attention going to one….good luck mommies with 2 or more u can do it and u got it all under control

  3. I really find this article interesting. I have a 10 week old baby boy and this will really be beneficial to us when he is older. And what’s nice is, is that we have already implement most of the mentioned. I love cuddling with my boy and he enjoys reading time, even though he doesn’t understand what I’m reading but the facial expressions he makes when making funny voices are priceless

    • Congrats on your new baby @ani1009 🙂 Your baby may not understand your words but he is learning so much from you from reading! You will be so surprised how quickly your baby will start to understand you and the more you talk, interact and read to him the faster it will happen 🙂

  4. I loved this article thank you! Me and my 12 week old cuddle and play. I dont read to hom yet as i dont think he will understand English. But this is good advice and i love it

    • Are you Afrikaans @karla? There are so many lovely Afrikaans books too. My husband is Afrikaans so my kids have English and Afrikaans books. There is one Afrikaans Liedjies books we have that is so much fun and perfect for little ones. It is more than just understanding the words, but also about hearing your voice.

      I try find that book for you so I can give you the title. It really is a gem!

      • Yes we are afrikaans. Please do get me the title that would help so muck thank you Lynn

        • It is Baba se Eerste Rympies an Liedjies – it is a lovely book with cardboard pages so perfect for when baby starts to chew on the pages, which he will do! I took a photo, please excuse it though it is looking grubby since it is now nearly 5 years old. I am sure I bought it at Bargain Books.

          Baba se Eerste Rympies an Liedjies

        • Have a browse around Bargain Books, they really are a great book store. If they don’t have it in stock just ask them if they can order it in for you.

          They order things in for me often with no hassles. But if they can’t supply you with this book just have a poke around they have a great Afrikaans section for kids and baby books. I am sure you will find something great.

  5. i do spend time with my kids but most the things you mentioned im not doing them, i will start now to do that. thank you

  6. My son and I we always together he likes to have a little chat before he sleeps telling me all about his day and what happens in creche and we play puzzle games together

  7. Im getting to the movie time talking and reading together…still a while but ill get there in he mean time i find different bonding ways im so proud his now 8 months and his 2 top teeth is breaking trough i see them then he will have 4.

  8. Cuddle with love and he start singing for me nkosi sikela i africa lol bond for some time before his sleeping

  9. Wow! how insightful! Thanks a mil for this article. It reallly is amazing

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