Best ways to discipline your child

Best Ways To Discipline Your Child – 5 Tips to Get It Right

I know that I am not the perfect mother, in fact there have been plenty of days when I have thrown worse wobblies than my kids. I’m certainly not going to beat myself up here though, I am sure that I am not alone in being tired and strung out looking after my kids. I bet you have also been thinking about the best ways to discipline your child.

The last few months have been really tough and it has been quite the learning curve trying to figure out how to discipline my kids in an effective way.

What I have found with my parenting journey is that things will be great for a while and suddenly everything just gets hard and I struggle. It is then that I have to take a step back and really evaluate what is happening and change my game plan. I need to learn to adapt and adjust my parenting technique to fit the stage that my children are at.

About two months ago I found myself looking at a three year old and a five year old and wondering what it is that I am doing wrong, why do my children not listen to me at all? How come I am repeating the same thing over and over again with no results?

I had to take a hard look at what I was doing and make some changes. It really is amazing looking back now to see that the changes I made have made a huge impact in such a short space of time.

Here are some things that I think are really important and will help you to discipline your children in the best possible way.

Best Ways To Discipline Your Child

  1. Positive Parenting

I think this is the most important thing for me. I need to remember to always parent with love and remember that my children need attention.

The thing is that children will go for any attention that they can get and if they are only managing to get negative attention that is what they will go for. This does not help anyone’s situation does it?

It is vital to ensure that each child gets some special one on one time every single day. It does not have to be a long time but it must be special. I have started calling this time special time and making sure my child knows that nobody is allowed to interrupt our special time together.

After my child has had a bath I get out my cream and give my child a quick massage. Then we read a story together and we talk for a few minutes before bed time. Yes I have always read a bed time story to my kids, but I believe my mindset was a bit different.

Previously I was anxious to get my kids into bed after a long day, looking forward to my coffee and a bit of peace and quiet. Ok so I won’t lie, I still look forward to that time!

But now I don’t rush this special time with each child and they can tell the difference.

The result is that my kids go to bed happier and more relaxed after a nice massage and some special talk time. In addition to that, no matter what happens during the day my kids always know that they will get their moment alone with me and this makes them happier and not so attention seeking.

They are also sleeping better which in turn means that I am more rested since I get a good nights sleep.

It is also important to recognize when my children behave in a positive way and let them know that I have noticed, and highlight these things as much as possible.

Reward charts are excellent for this!

My children always try and please me so when I reward their positive behaviour by acknowledging it they love it.

  1. What is the Purpose of Discipline?

Discipline is about teaching my children. There are two aspects to this. I need to teach my children that there are consequences to their actions, so if they break a rule or do something they shouldn’t be doing there will be a consequence to it.

It is also about teaching them how to behave.

Discipline is not about punishment and that is something I try to make clear to my children. So any way that I decide to discipline my children should be as a consequence of their actions and not as a punishment for doing wrong.

Our job as a parent is to guide our children and show them the right way.

Be Patient with your children

  1. Consistency is Key

Consistency is something I have always found hard. My mom has always told me to be consistent with my children and asks me whether I have achieved it. My answer have often been that yes I am consistent, except when I am tired, or when I am trying to get something done….

Ok so not that consistent right?

I have recently started being very consistent and I have to admit that it is paying off. It is important for my kids to know that if they do something they will get a consequence and they know what it is.

This actually provides a nice safe boundary for them to grow and learn.

  1. Relevancy

As mentioned already, discipline is about teaching your child so it is important that the consequence is related to what your child has done.

It is pointless to give a completely unrelated consequence because it won’t teach your child anything about what he or she did wrong.

  1. Patience

My children have taught me how to be more patient and it has not always been an easy thing for me. I have to constantly remind myself to be patient with my children.

I find that the moment I start getting short tempered and impatient everything goes pear shaped. I have also found that when I start getting impatient my kids start to mimic my behavior. Children learn mostly from what you do, not from what you tell them to do.

Be patient, kind and loving with them and that is what they will learn.

The days that I am able to keep my patience in check are the days that I get to really enjoy my children and have fun with them.

And that is what it is all about isn’t it? Enjoying your children and having fun with them!

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  1. Great article! Thank you, definitely going to save this so I can read it again when I know I’m becoming a mom-monster ?

  2. Discipline very important to me every artical i can read or tips or advice about Discipline i read it a very big thing discipline it will also reflect on respect ect. Thx Lynne

  3. I really needed to read this as im a soft mon. My firts son got away with everything! He still does and i just look the other way! I am defenatly going to do better with my little one!

    • @karla I really think it is about finding the right balance and for me it is very much about how tired I am or whether I am busy with something or not. I do have to say that since I have started being consistent and putting in more effort it has become a lot easier.

  4. Lynne How do i share it on social media read and comment this artical before great artical.

  5. Chart Review is awesome!! I actually have a Chore Chart for my little one, it works really well, although she has cottoned on to “can we skip chores tonight, Im very tired” 🙂 🙂

    • Yes my daughter also does that… I usually reply with oh dear, me too! I might be too tired to cook supper… or too tired to read to you later…and then she jumps up LOL

      • Love it!!! will definitely try that this evening lol

      • Oh yes…. it works like a charm and makes my daughter think 🙂 I’ve explained to her that I am often tired but I still do all the little things that need to be done.

  6. Thanks for the tip Lynne 🙂

  7. I respect the discpline and patience part, unless it is just me or the stage my 11yr old is going through I think I am goin to crack or give up. I dont think its my son I just think its everything added up from living at my dads to work to coming home and doing everything and just scrapping by in the month if I can. I have noted to myself that although my son is 11yrs old at 7.30pm he is in bed & has his night light & that is his time but by 8pm its bed and this has helped us both a lot by giving each other a bit of space and “own” time. Yes we stay in the same room so I sit & play games on my phone or do washing or prepare lunch.

  8. Disciplining a child it’s a great way to teach a child responsibility my son knows that he has to pick up his toys after playing cleaning after himself is his responsible and please and thank you it’s a must

  9. Informative article thanks I need it

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