Why so Bitchy Mama?

All I ask is why so bitchy mama? I can’t understand it. Most mothers I come into contact with are lovely, supportive and friendly people. There is however a breed of mommy that I think of as the bitchy mamas.

There seems to be certain sites that draw these bitchy mamas in and they pick on other newer members. Ever heard of the term trolling?

I like the top definition I found on Urban Dictionary for trolling, it’s blunt and to the point:
“Being a prick on the internet because you can. Typically unleashing one or more cynical or sarcastic remarks on an innocent by-stander, because it’s the internet and, hey, you can.”

Here is a real example from Facebook I saw a little while back between two woman:

Woman: “Anyone know where I can buy a single comforter in the area?”
Other Woman: “That’s a stupid question, what’s wrong with you?”

When I first started my company there were a few of these bitchy mamas hanging around on my company facebook page. One morning I started work and when I saw my facebook page my jaw dropped open in horror! A mom had asked a simple question (sorry I can’t recall what is was) and another mother had in response called her stupid and a bad mother.

I wonder if these bitchy mamas realise how nasty and unpleasant they make things for other moms? The confused, tired and overwhelmed new mom that asks for advice and guidance that gets shot down with an ugly comment? When a new mom is having one of those days and needs help is it not just the right thing to do to respond in a compassionate, helpful way? And if we can’t find it within ourselves to do that perhaps we should keep our thoughts to ourselves. Isn’t that what our mommies taught us? If you have nothing nice to say don’t say it.

We might be black, coloured or white, we might be catholic, muslim, agnostic or jewish, or we might be English, Afrikaans, Sotho or Zulu moms… we live in a country with such a rich, diverse culture. But we are also all the same, we are all moms with the same goal: to nurture our children in the way we feel is best, to love them and teach them how to survive in this world.

Let’s treat other moms with the respect that is due to them, no matter what their belief is on breastfeeding, the way they give birth, whether they choose the cry it out method or rock their baby to sleep with aching arms or if they circumcise their sons or not.

Remember that the way we treat other people is how our children will learn how to interact with everyone else. Let’s show them the right way by our actions.

Oh and don’t even get me started on “in moms”…

Have you experienced trolling before? How did you handle it?