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Few issues vex the parents of babies and toddlers more than their child’s struggles to sleep well. It’s debilitating for the whole family, and tightly stretches the emotional resources of parents, who are battling the consequences of their own sleep deprivation. Sleep time is the body’s time not just for much-needed rest, but also for healing and regeneration. Not getting enough of it, depletes moms, dads and kids – physically, mentally and emotionally.
It’s not surprising then that there are reams and reams of sources of advice for how parents can get their babies to sleep better. It’s hard to know where to turn, and whose advice to trust.
Michele Carelse, a Clinical Psychologist and the Director of online health store, Feelgood Health says, “A baby’s sleep patterns go through various changes as they grow and develop, which can leave parents feeling at a loss, because what seemed to be working over the past week is suddenly upended. It can feel like a rough rollercoaster ride.
What’s important is to understand the basics of baby sleep and have strategies in place to help you manage family sleep time as best as possible. Fortunately, there are options, so if something is not working for you and your baby, you can try alternatives. It’s important for parents to prioritise good sleeping patterns for the whole family and feel determined to find solutions so that they persevere when times are tough.”
On Wednesday, 27 July 2022, from 8:15pm to 9pm, Feelgood Health, one of South Africa’s pioneering online healthy lifestyle stores, will be hosting a free parent’s webinar on how to get your baby or toddler sleeping peacefully. The session will include a Q&A chat so that parents can talk through their concerns with Michele and also learn from other parents’ experiences.
Michele says, “All babies are unique and develop at their own pace. It’s better to know the general expectations of how babies’ sleep patterns develop, than to consider these ‘milestones’ that your child must reach by a certain time. Just like us, all sorts of things can disrupt a baby’s sleep. For instance, teething often brings discomfort, and this is commonly a time when a baby or toddler may struggle to fall asleep, or get back to sleep on their own if they have woken up because they are uncomfortable or sore.”
For a new-born baby, up to around 2 months, feeding takes priority over sleeping. There’s no getting around that you will be waking every two hours or so for feeding over these first precious weeks of life. Around 3 to 6 months, your baby may be able to sleep for up to 6-hour stretches, much to the relief and delight of their new parents. However, it is a common experience that between 6 to 9 months of age, things can go seemingly awry.
Michele says, “There is major brain development going on at this stage, as well as physical developments such as teething which can disrupt the sleep pattern. Your baby may well begin to realise that sleeping means being left alone, and they may start crying at bedtime in the hope of keeping you close to them. This is when you need strategies to manage the situation, to both soothe them when they need it, such as using a natural remedy to ease teething discomfort – and also to give them gentle opportunities to learn to self-soothe.”
There can be many reasons why a baby is struggling to fall asleep or fall back to sleep if they have woken up, including hunger, illness, pain, the need for comfort and bad dreams. It’s important to go through a process of elimination so that you have some understanding of what is causing the sleep disruption. Many parents expect that at around 1 years old their baby would have established a healthy sleeping pattern that better suits the whole family’s sleep routine. However, this is not a rule or a set milestone, and it’s perfectly natural for some children to need ongoing parental structure and intervention in order for them to sleep easily and peacefully.
Helpful strategies to enable your baby to sleep more peacefully, include:
- Facilitating plenty of stimulating day-time activity
- Setting up a sleep-conducive bedroom environment for your baby or toddler
- Establishing and maintaining a relaxing, consistent night-time routine
- Making sure your child’s hunger is sufficiently satiated before bedtime
- Winding down to bedtime
- Using natural remedies for calming, relaxing and relief of discomforts
- Implementing gentle sleep training
To learn more about why these strategies are important, and how to implement them, join this parenting conversation with Clinical Psychologist, Michele Carelse at the Feelgood Health How to get your baby or toddler sleeping peacefully webinar.
Date: Wednesday, 27 July 2022
Time: 8:15pm to 9pm
Registration is free here. Parents who register will receive the webinar Zoom link.
About Feelgood Health
Over the past 20 years, Feelgood Health has developed as a truly one-stop health shop meeting the wellness needs of the entire family, including pets. With free delivery options, all customers do is browse, click and conveniently accept their delivery at their door. The catalogue of over 1000 products is 90% plant-based and 100% natural with all ingredients listed, and includes baby, child, adult and pet health; health foods and nutritional supplements; skin care, beauty, bath and pamper products; aromatherapy, herbal and homeopathic remedies; and natural gifts.
The Feelgood Health own brand ranges are rigorously formulated with careful consideration of the research behind each ingredient used. Therapeutic dosages are based on latest scientific knowledge to ensure safety and efficacy. All new products added to the online store have to pass strict ingredient and quality standards, offering customers peace of mind.
This is so important and to learn so much from your post ive have new tips and new strategies to give my kids a peacefull and also help myself when they have sleep i get sleep i finaly have amazing solutions thank you been years ive hav struggle the few months till few years is ok then it change too hectic myside
I know the feeling. My first baby was a terrible sleeper and it really affected our whole family since hubby and I were so exhausted for such a long time.