I heard boys are easier than girls long before I had children. I never paid much attention until I found out my 2nd baby was a boy and I hoped and prayed it would be true.
My experience has definitely been that boys are easier than girls. My daughter was hard from the moment I fell pregnant. I had a difficult pregnancy with every possible horrible pregnancy symptom. My 42 hour labour at home with a posterior baby (facing the wrong way) was painful and tiring. My attempted home birth landed up in an emergency c-section.
My newborn baby girl didn’t want to sleep, she often seemed agitated and I struggled. To be honest it seemed like she just didn’t like me much, even though she never wanted me to put her down. I got PND and it took me 6 months to get over that and start to feel normal.
My daughter is a wonderful little girl, very clever and sweet. However she is very high maintenance, constantly wanting attention and always busy. I love her with all my heart but she tires me out beyond what I thought I could possibly survive. She loves me fiercely and wants to be close to me (on top of me) all the time. Following me around and hanging on me. Yes I am flattered but I would really love to be left alone sometimes!
When I found out I was pregnant again when my daughter was 17 months old I cried buckets. I honestly thought I would not survive another pregnancy, never mind labour, birth and then of course another baby.
My pregnancy with my son was a breeze in comparison to my daughter’s pregnancy. I only put on 14 kgs (in comparison to 40kgs with my daughter!) and I hardly had any problems at all. Yes a little bit of heartburn and a touch of pelvic pain but otherwise a very easy pregnancy. My birth was also a breeze, I opted for an elective c-section this time. Yes I have been judged plenty for choosing this instead of a vbac (vaginal birth after caesarean) but I had my try at natural birth and I just wasn’t up for the possibility of another experience like that.
When my son was born he cried and looked a little distressed at being pulled out of his comfortable little home, but as soon as he was put on my chest he looked at me, cuddled into me and had a look on his face that said “oh good, here’s my mommy, everything is fine”.
From the moment I conceived up until now he has been nothing but a calm, sweet and loving child. He is easy going and relaxed, a wonderful change to my highly strung daughter.
I am sure that there is no rule about which gender is easier, but my experience has without a doubt been that boys are easier than girls!