As you prepare for your big day chances are high that couples therapy is the last thing on your mind. However chances are good that you do have a prenuptial agreement on your to do list before you walk down the aisle. If you are making provisions for what happens if you do divorce before you even get married don’t you think it would be wise to take every preventative measure to ensure that you don’t get divorced in the first place.
Getting married is a huge adjustment and going for premarital therapy can offer some amazing benefits and give you a very strong foundation for your marriage.
Counseling helps couples learn how to communicate with each other, which is going to be one of the biggest benefits of premarital therapy. You will learn how to understand each other better, how to communicate your needs and how to deal with challenges when they do arise.
Lack of communication skills can be a relationship killer, so building these skills together before marriage will be a very valuable tool.
Address Issues Before They Arise
There are many big things that a couple will need to address before they get married that could be very detrimental to the health of their marriage if not confronted early on. Things like financial decisions, whether you want children or not and individual career goals are going to make a big impact on a marriage.
Planning The Future
If you are going to commit yourself for the rest of your life to someone it is going to be an excellent idea to have a plan for the future. Counseling can help a couple make a realistic plan to reach their mutual and individual goals for the future. It is important for couples to have mutual and individual goals and to know and understand what these are and plan for how they will work together and support each other to achieve these goals.
Marriage is hard and takes a lot of work. Both parties in the marriage will grow and change as a person over time, not necessarily at the same rate as their spouse. There are going to be times of happiness and smooth sailing in the relationship and there are going to be times that will challenge each person and cause strain on the marriage.
Someone that has been married for a long time will be able to share some insight into these challenges with a couple that is about to get married and better prepare them for what is to come.
Learn About Themselves
You may think that you know a lot about your partner before you get married but there are many things you don’t know and premarital counseling is a wonderful way to learn new things about the person you are about to marry. It is a safe space where both partners can share things that they may have been reluctant to share.
Counseling is a great way to learn more about each other and to grow as a couple, building a solid foundation for a strong marriage. If you start counseling early you will know and understand the process before any challenges hit. It will be so much easier for you to attend counseling when times get tough as you won’t fear the process and your counselor will already know and understand you as a couple. This will make working through any difficulties so much easier than a married couple that has never attended therapy together.