Why so Bitchy Mama?

Why so Bitchy Mama?

All I ask is why so bitchy mama? I can’t understand it. Most mothers I come into contact with are lovely, supportive and friendly people. There is however a breed of mommy that I think of as the bitchy mamas.

There seems to be certain sites that draw these bitchy mamas in and they pick on other newer members. Ever heard of the term trolling?

I like the top definition I found on Urban Dictionary for trolling, it’s blunt and to the point:
“Being a prick on the internet because you can. Typically unleashing one or more cynical or sarcastic remarks on an innocent by-stander, because it’s the internet and, hey, you can.”

Here is a real example from Facebook I saw a little while back between two woman:

Woman: “Anyone know where I can buy a single comforter in the area?”
Other Woman: “That’s a stupid question, what’s wrong with you?”

When I first started my company there were a few of these bitchy mamas hanging around on my company facebook page. One morning I started work and when I saw my facebook page my jaw dropped open in horror! A mom had asked a simple question (sorry I can’t recall what is was) and another mother had in response called her stupid and a bad mother.




I wonder if these bitchy mamas realise how nasty and unpleasant they make things for other moms? The confused, tired and overwhelmed new mom that asks for advice and guidance that gets shot down with an ugly comment? When a new mom is having one of those days and needs help is it not just the right thing to do to respond in a compassionate, helpful way? And if we can’t find it within ourselves to do that perhaps we should keep our thoughts to ourselves. Isn’t that what our mommies taught us? If you have nothing nice to say don’t say it.

We might be black, coloured or white, we might be catholic, muslim, agnostic or jewish, or we might be English, Afrikaans, Sotho or Zulu moms… we live in a country with such a rich, diverse culture. But we are also all the same, we are all moms with the same goal: to nurture our children in the way we feel is best, to love them and teach them how to survive in this world.

Let’s treat other moms with the respect that is due to them, no matter what their belief is on breastfeeding, the way they give birth, whether they choose the cry it out method or rock their baby to sleep with aching arms or if they circumcise their sons or not.

Remember that the way we treat other people is how our children will learn how to interact with everyone else. Let’s show them the right way by our actions.

Oh and don’t even get me started on “in moms”

Have you experienced trolling before? How did you handle it?

 

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10 comments

  1. To be honest my first 3 months after having my son I was a Bitchy mamma. My reasons where, that i was tired, I never got any help from the father, I had to do everything on my own. He haw hardly ever at home. I was in pain for the first month that didn’t make life easier and having PND I wasn’t the happiest person to be around. I must admit I didn’t enjoy that time at all.
    I was grumpy most of the time and every one around me thought I just like being a bitch, but in actual fact is all I wanted was a little support and sleep..

  2. Lol!!!! I love this!! So true and straight forward! Well done for putting it out there!

  3. I can remember when my first born was born I was so scared that someone would drop him that I would not allow any one that does not have kids pick him up …. Shame I was like this lady in this picture , My middle sister hated me. I think I was just as unpleasant as everyone in the beginning 🙁

  4. Same here. I shouted on my mom just because she took long with putting on a diaper. I couldnt handle it when my baby was crying. I just wanted to help her.

    I think the next baby will be easier.

  5. You will always get different type of people from bitchy to denial to haters unfortunately its a way of life for some as they dont know better or they just think nothing of you and bully or belittle you in any way. Many moms out there think they are the best and so are their children but wont admit or apologies if their child is wrong instead they deffend and blame.
    This is of personal experience

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