March 13, 2018 at 1:40 pm #30115
I have been invited to attend a conference for work in Spain in June this year. My excitement is unbearable but so is my anxiety. I am not a clingy mom at all; my little one has spent weekends at my mom since she was about 6 months old, she goes camping with her dad for two to three days at a time. The thought of me leaving her for 5 days and being in a completely different country is completely freaking me out!! I have already found out that there is only an hour time difference so I should be able to call her in the evenings. Then this morning driving to work I thought, what if she cries at the airport? How will I ever handle that?? If any Moms have any tips or suggestions for making traveling away from your baby a little easier for both mom and baby, I would greatly appreciate any advice.March 13, 2018 at 5:00 pm #30148
@tamara737 I had to go to India for 10 days when my son was 20 months old. This has been our longest separation ever.
Before the trip he had only stayed with my parents once for a week, at 8 months old, when I was hospitalized for a stroke. I missed him crawling for the first time. But my mom, being the worlds best mother and grandmother caught it on camera. Since then he has spent weekends with my parents as well as have a sleepover with his cousin, whom he adores.
My tips would be:
1. Don’t take her to the airport. She will cry when you have to walk away. This will stress you both out. Rather say your goodbyes whilst she’s is preoccupied or wait for her to nap.
2. Don’t have contact unnecessarily. This may be different in your case, but with us, it would upset my little monster after hearing my voice or seeing me on face chat. He would be contented until I called. Then he would be inconsolable for hours. Rather have videos of baby sent to you.
3. What ever you do don’t call at nap or bedtime!!! Rather call in the mornings when baby wakes up.
4. Leave some dirty laundry. Yes, you are reading this. We found early on that having an item with my little monster, that smells like me, really helps him to sleep. So I always leave whatever I wore last be it a blouse or a dress.
5. Keep baby I routine with as much of her own goodies as possible. In fact if she can stay at home and your parents can sleep at your place this would be best. She feels save at home. She knows home.
6. She will miss you and look for you. But she will also be ok.
7. Make sure to leave your medical aid card and a power of attorney for whom ever cares for her.
I have a client that was overseas when her son broke his arm. First the hospital refused treatment due to parental consent being absent. Then at long last after I went to hospital with the necessary paperwork on email, treatment was administered. But the grandmother had to pay cash for everything due to lack of the medical aid card.
8. You will be more stressed out than you child. 5 days is long but bearable. Just breath. I know you wont sleep but try.March 14, 2018 at 1:07 pm #30187
@anrivisser, I replied to this on the Personality Clash Forum, But thanks again 🙂March 16, 2018 at 1:37 pm #30260
@tamara737 If Dad has a medical aid card and a birth certificate or certified copy thereof he is good to go. There should be no problem. Perhaps as a precaution keep a copy of the court order and or parenting plan close which states you share parental rights and responsibilities. Thus he can make medical decisions for the child.
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