It came as a huge shock when we found out that I was pregnant. As a result, there was not even a chance that I could give birth at a private hospital, as my fiance and I did not have medical funds.
At the near end of my pregnancy, I started going to prenatal classes with Irene Bourquin. She, the angel that she was, offered her TENS machine, and to arrange a personal Doula for me to help with my birth – free of charge. This meant the world to me, as I never expected someone willing to help me as much as she did.
After a week of labor scares, my Doula, Anette rushing to my home each time and exciting the family for no good reason, I was very discouraged.
I was 38 weeks pregnant, and sick and tired of being so!
Wednesday morning, the 30th of January, my fiance and I rushed to Maccasar MOU. I had spent the previous two days, home alone, cringing of early labor pains and dying from the extreme heat. Anette soon met us at the MOU soon after we had arrived.
With the pain getting much worse, I was so disappointed to learn that I was only 3cm dilated, and that my fiance was not allowed into the labor ward, or even near me until the time I gave birth. I longed for him to be with me and so I can blame him for the pain I’m in like every other woman in the movies do. Luckily, I had Anette and my mom with me. Through crying, screaming, bouncing on a ball and taking a bath, both were there and gave me the courage that I needed. I used the TENS for a while, and then I got so irritated by the little pulses that I just decided to make due without it.
After a whole day, I started moaning and screaming that I want to push. The staff rushed to my aid instantly and took me to the birthing room. My mom rushed to find my fiance, Anette helped me to get settled and wiped my face with a wet face cloth. The midwife then broke my waters, and instructed me not to push… Uhm? Hello? That’s like asking a fish not to swim.
When it was finally time to push, I gave it my all. I was surprised at how much it hurt, but not long the baby was out. They lifted my little blue girl up from my legs, and I was in awe. She started crying, and before I knew it she was in my arms.
My fiance had to leave after that, and only return during visiting hours, which was ten minutes away. Anette helped me to breastfeed my baby girl, and helped me to get out of shock!
Soon after, everyone was there to welcome our baby girl, Kristy-Lee into the world. She and I spent that night in the MOU, bonding and just taking in the love we share for each other.